Building your child’s self-confidence
By Kristelle Bechayda
Children are naturally curious and they tend to follow what the grown-ups around them do. Imagine what happens when most of what they see around them, or on TV and social media are skinny women or buffed guys who don’t seem to have an ounce of flaw on them.
Body standards have always been there. But international fashion consultant Nika Diwa states in her seminar at Be Empowered that today, teenagers aren’t the only ones greatly affected by them but young children. Here are some tips on how to build your child’s confidence before society dictates its “norms.”
Walk the talk
Teaching children about self-acceptance is not that easy if they see us struggling ourselves. The best way for kids to learn is always through example. “You know, when we talk about self-love, we should always take the lead. Children will just follow,” Diwa says. She adds that being surrounded by a good solid support system will go a long way in the children’s development, as they will also grow up to be like the people around them.
Spend more time with them
Just being there with your children goes a long way. By talking to them openly about their fears and insecurities, you would be able to understand where they are coming from. Diwa shares that she also does the same to her step-daughter. “I tell her that making mistakes doesn’t change her worth, that it’s okay to mess up,” Diwa says.
Make them keep a journal
Children find it hard to stay upbeat when they are doubting themselves. Diwa also shares an exercise that she does whenever she is having a bad day. “Write down on a journal all of the things you know to be true about yourselves, like your strengths,” she says. “When you’re having a bad day, just open it up and read the words out loud so you can remind yourself of your worth.”
She notices there is something powerful about being able to say those words herself. With their doubts set aside, this exercise can help the kids confidently step into any situation, may it be in school, or in establishing new friendships.
To find out more about Nika Diwa, visit her website at nikadiwa.com