When social media influences parenting
By Kristelle Bechayda
Last week, mommy blogger Katie Bower, or @bowerpowerblog as she is known on her social media accounts, received backlash after posting on Instagram how one of his sons is not statistically doing good in her posts.
As of this writing, Bower’s said post has been archived due to the flood of comments it elicited but a reporter from Buzzfeed named Stephanie McNeal was able to take screenshots of it and posted them on Twitter. “Omg this Instagram mommy blogger is celebrating her sons bday by writing about how out of all her kids, he ‘statistically’ performs the worse on her Instagram. And she’s worried one day it will ruin his self esteem.” she writes.
There were people who judged Bower’s parenting, the comments ranging from her the one who is lacking self-esteem to craving for social media attention. She was even accused of using her kids to gain more online traction.
What is wrong with these mothers. They lack self esteem. And when I see that crap online, I swerve and avoid. Using your kids to bolster your income and brand is too freakish.
— Yasmin A. Choudhury (@yasminisyasmin) November 20, 2018
Katie Bower is an endless well of social media neediness. This is not at all surprising. Her entire life revolves around generating as much internet attention as she can, so it’s no wonder that she expects her children will also see their worth in terms of “likes.”
— KPH (@k_perryhopkins) November 19, 2018
This is straight heartless and said more worried about what the world thinks of her kids then what she thinks of them, if she’d just invest the wasted time on instagram and focused it on supporting her child he’ll turn out just fine 😕
— Alex Combs (@AlexCombs17) November 19, 2018
Others, however, criticized McNeal for not having solved anything by putting Bower in a negative light.
You work for Buzzfeed yet are picking on a woman who admits she struggles with other people’s approval online?
Your entire industry is built on this human frailty for heaven’s sake.
— Jason Smith (@iwearahoodie) November 20, 2018
Steph, do you think that making a post about this woman, who you clearly think quite ignorant, will have a positive impact on her feelings of inadequacy?
— Morgan Shanahan (@the818) November 20, 2018
After archiving her Instagram post, Bower explained her side through an Instagram story a few days later. She said her post was meant to explain to her followers that social media isn’t everything, which was something she had to learn as she works with brands.
“I had to learn that the likes do not reflect much to me,” she says. “That I had to choose that, because I work with brands that tell you the opposite.”