How to track your child’s progress

By Kristelle Bechayda

There is nothing that excites us parents more than seeing our children reach a milestone, especially when we realize the talents that they have and want to develop them. During the launch of Promil Four’s i-Shine Talent Camp season 7, the president of the Philippine Center for Gifted Education Dr. Leticia Penano-Ho shared some insights on what parents can do to further develop their children’s gifts.

Nurturing is crucial

As Britannica encyclopedia would define it, a gifted child is someone “who is naturally endowed with a high degree of general mental ability or extraordinary ability in a specific sphere of activity or knowledge.”

In her talk, Dr. Ho stressed the importance of nurturing a child’s talent upon discovery, as this will only end up becoming latent when not developed. “Giftedness is developmental. It is something that you have to nurture. If there is no nurture, it doesn’t die but it will not develop,” she explained.

She added that nurturing a child’s gift is a collaborative effort and parents should develop them not just for their own benefit, but also that of the others. “You develop it so that the gifted is able to give back. That is what we need in the Philippines,” she said.

Documentation is also important

Nobody knows our children more than we do and even Dr. Ho agreed that we are the best judges of their potential. Apart from nurturing,

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Three ways to be a good mentor to your kids

By Kristelle Bechayda

Part of our job in raising our kids is to give them the proper guidance, not just in their education but also in how they interact with the world. In line with the International Mentoring Day last January 17, Moms and Babies interviews Didi Manahan, who is an advocate of research-based and child responsive educational experiences in the country, on the effective way in mentoring children. Here are three ways, as shared by Manahan:

Listen, identify, and coach

When you see another person’s perspective, you’re a real mentor because real mentorship actually begins with the action of listening. Listening is not just hearing the words but trying to speculate what the intentions or feelings are of the person they are mentoring.

Another important facet of mentoring is also being able to identify or help the child elaborate or discover why they are going through with those feelings. Only a mentor who is able to listen carefully and maybe who has had experience with a similar situation will be able to say a child feels like staying at home because he doesn’t feel safe in school. So you help the child make sense of the feelings he is going through.

The mentor’s role is to also coach. The coach is very realistic and will say when there is a choice or no choice for the student or the child. Let’s say there is no choice: School is a no-choice situation and so the mentor will say,

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Scarlet Snow Belo’s very own prayer book is out

One of the things we would like to instill in our children is to have their own spiritual journey and to establish their faith at a young age. There is no effective way to do this than through a prayer book and social media sensation Scarlet Snow Belo just recently released hers!

Titled My First Prayer Book, it is composed of fresh collection of stories and easy-to-follow prayers for children. It has specific prayers for instances when children wake up, before they eat a meal, before they go on a trip, and before they go to bed. The prayer book even includes important life lessons that Scarlet has learned from her parents Hayden Kho and Vicki Belo.

“Daddy says when I thank God for His gifts, it also makes His heart happy,” shared Scarlet when she talked about the Prayer to Give Thanks.

My First Prayer Book also includes petitions like the Prayer for Somebody Mean to You and Prayer for Mom/Dad When They’re Not Feeling Well that are meant for the benefit of other people. There are also prayers to teach children on how to apologize and share to God their wishes.

Aside from the invocations, the prayer book also has Scarlet’s adorable photos and illustrated adventures, giving readers a glimpse into her day-to-day experiences.

“Scarlet Snow’s My First Prayer Book is simply a read-along guide to help parents start their kids’ prayer lives.

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What is progressive education?

By Kristelle Bechayda

Parents can get overwhelmed with so many educational philosophies out there. One of them is progressive education, and it has slowly but steadily been gaining more ground here in the country.

Moms and Babies got to sit down with Didi Manahan, who is the School Directress of Keys School Manila which is a progressive K-12 school. Prior to that, she and her partners put up Explorations Preschool, a developmentally appropriate preschool for children ages 1-5 years old. She is also an advocate of research-based and child responsive educational experiences in the country. Read below to get more insights on what progressive schooling is all about.

For parents who are not aware, what should they know about progressive education?

There are three characteristics of progressive education: It’s based on individual needs. The teacher has a curriculum but the curriculum is designed because she knows that developmentally, the kids will be interested and it will address their socio-emotional and cognitive needs.

The other one is significance. The teacher has to think of ways that the learning experience is connected to their lives and also ways for them to be motivated to continue learning outside the school environment.

The last is a sense of becoming a citizen in a democratic society and a citizen who also contributes so that there is change.

What do you think are the advantages this approach brings?

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Alyanna Martinez-Macam encourages fellow moms to keep on breastfeeding

By Kristelle Bechayda

Breastfeeding doesn’t come easy for some mothers. While other moms have no difficulty nursing their child, there are those who suffer from low milk supply and need to take lactation supplements or boosters. In an Instagram post, celebrity mom Alyanna Martinez-Macam encouraged other mothers to keep on nursing despite their struggles.

Alyanna has been breastfeeding her one-year-old daughter Adalynn since her birth and has managed to feed her daughter without resorting to milk formula or even the aid of lactation boosters to increase her milk supply.

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Celebrating a whole year of completely directly breastfeeding @adalynnrileymacam 🤱🏻 And yes, for those of you asking and needing motivation when the going gets tough, we did it with absolutely ZERO pumping, bottles, formula, supplementation, pacifiers, lactation boosters or anything else. Just direct feeding on demand 24/7. It did not come easy or painless but it is definitely do-able so don’t give up if you are trying to reach your own nursing goals. I have cherished every single nursing session despite the tears on both our parts at times. Having survived latch issues in the early days, upper lip tie that has since been revised, painful clogs, milk blebs, blisters, mastitis, nursing on demand throughout the night EVERY SINGLE NIGHT since she was born, teething, pinching, slapping, gym-nurstics, you name it but the worst for me was the phase of biting when her top 4 teeth erupted all at once😖But it’s been all worth it in the end.

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Three ways to be a good mentor to your child

By Kristelle Bechayda

Part of our job in raising our kids is to give them the proper guidance, not just in their education but also in how they interact with the world. In line with the International Mentoring Day last January 17, Moms and Babies interviews Didi Manahan, who is an advocate of research-based and child responsive educational experiences in the country, on the effective way in mentoring children. Here are three ways, as shared by Manahan:

Listen, identify, and coach.

When you see another person’s perspective, you’re a real mentor because real mentorship actually begins with the action of listening. Listening is not just hearing the words but trying to speculate what the intentions or feelings are of the person they are mentoring.

Another important facet of mentoring is also being able to identify or help the child elaborate or discover why they are going through with those feelings. Only a mentor who is able to listen carefully and maybe who has had experience with a similar situation will be able to say a child feels like staying at home because he doesn’t feel safe in school. So you help the child make sense of the feelings he is going through.

The mentor’s role is to also coach. The coach is very realistic and will say when there is a choice or no choice for the student or the child. Let’s say there is no choice: School is a no-choice situation,

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Parents’ guide to growth mindset

By Kristelle Bechayda

In raising children, parents only want what is best for them. There are many challenges surrounding not only in rearing kids, but also with how they look at the world. At The Reshape Effect Forum recently held by Nestle Nankid, licensed clinical social worker and parenting consultant Melissa Benaroya was invited to share how parents can effectively reshape their children’s future through their mindsets.

As defined by psychologist Carol Dweck, having a growth mindset is understanding that abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work. Benaroya explained the difference of a child with a growth mindset from those with a fixed one.

“When children with a growth mindset experience a challenge or a failure, they tend to work even harder. So when they work harder, they increase their effort and they achieve more. On the other hand, the fixed mindset child gets frustrated. They kind of give up and reduce their effort, which results to lower achievement.”

Here are some pointers shared by Benaroya:

1. Embrace mistakes.

In disrupting the cycle of a fixed minded child, Benaroya said that parents should model making mistakes in front of their children, explaining that they should be taken as opportunities for learning. “Our children do not need a perfect parent. What they need for us to do is to model how we manage and react to mistakes and how we learn. So it’s really helpful to acknowledge when we’ve made mistakes.”

Benaroya added that by embracing our mistakes,

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Learn, mingle, and shop

By Jane Kingsu-Cheng

Parenting will always be overwhelming, especially for first-time parents who get bombarded with so many information online. Local baby brand Orange and Peach realized this challenge modern parents are facing today, so they invited Dr. Elton S. Po, M.D. to share personal medical insights on how to take care of babies who have colds and the flu.

  1. Stay at home when you are sick.
  2. Cover your mouth and nose with a tissue when you cough or sneeze.
  3. Cough or sneeze into your upper sleeve, not your hand.
  4. Put used tissue in the waste bin.

One of the highlights of the event was the introduction of the brand’s battery operated Nasal Cleaner that helps relieve nasal congestion. Held at the Rustan’s in Shangri-la Plaza Mall, guests brought their precious babies to the intimate event where they got to catch up and get tips from fellow parents on how to deal with everyday challenges. Special discounts were given during the event as a treat to the guests.

For more details, follow @orangeandpeachph on Instagram.

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Help kids overcome fear of doctors

Q: I think my child was traumatized from his trips to the dentist and doctor visits for vaccinations. He cries and throws a fit upon seeing the hospital building, and more so upon entering the doctor’s clinic. What can I do to prevent this stressful situation? — Mommy Marie

A: Hello, Mommy Marie! Thank you for asking about this very common phenomenon. I do experience this in the clinic, and usually see this reaction. Oftentimes, this is brought about by the child’s anxiety—-the feeling of being surprised by a negative or painful event. The key to handling this situation is all about prepping and helping children understand the procedure that will be done to them. The following are some tips to lessen and eventually overcome this anxiety:

1. Explain what these medical practitioners do.

Caregivers often disguise the trip to the dentist or doctor as a “trip to the mall” or a trip to the doctor with a promise of “no injection.” This practice damages the trust built between the caregiver and the child, so as a coping mechanism, the child begins to throw a fit upon seeing the first sign of anything associated with the doctor and dentist. Even the sight of the hospital building can make them anxious. One can start a week before the scheduled date of the procedure by already opening the topic of a doctor’s visit. Try reading a book about doctor visits as a bedtime story,

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Build your child’s confidence through style

By Jane Kingsu-Cheng

Parents always want the best for their kids. They will do anything to understand them better so that we can raise them well. Elle Kids realize that they can help parents in their journey, so they hosted a workshop for both parents and children.

Certified Image Consultant and mother-of-two Abbygale Arenas-de Leon was the guest speaker at the Ogalala Store in Shangri-la Plaza mall. The Saturday afternoon event revealed how important it is for kids to have their own personal style. It is a way of expressing oneself, and a good opportunity to build self-confidence at such a young age.

Arenas started with a session on helping the children identify their dreams, with a fun photo shoot afterwards, making them comfortable and at ease on cam. This beauty queen also shared how important it is for children to believe in themselves and pursue their dreams. Parents play a vital role in helping their kids dream big and reach for their goals. This workshop also focused on how parents can be more sensitive when it comes to supporting their children’s individuality and style preference.

Sherilyn Reyes-Tan with daughter Eia. Tin Lozano with her little girl Dani.

The kids had fun presenting pieces from the fall-winter 2018 collection on the runway, in Parisian shades of red, white and blue. As for the parents, they had a grand time documenting milestones and creating core memories together with their children.

For more details,

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